I loved your article you’re a great writer. I would have liked it to focus less on Hollywood marriages though as we all know most of them are anything but traditional at all anyway and they can’t really relate to the issues facing most. For example I have a friend who recently lost her job and now can’t afford to get the divorce she actually wants. Getting divorced is so expensive it’s actually a privilege to be able to for many people.
Thank you for sharing that, Emily! I actually agree with you on the Hollywood marriages - their lived experience/problems are often vastly different to those of "normal" people for a multitude of different reasons (money, fame, etc). However, I do think that the media commentary around Hollywood marriages is reflective of our broader societal attitude towards marriage and divorce if that makes sense. The point you make about divorce being a privilege is really interesting and in my opinion, very true! I hope that as we move further into the future and as divorce becomes more normalised, it will also become more accessible for people like your friend who are desperate to leave a toxic situation but do not have the monetary means to do so. I appreciate you sharing that with me.
Hii! This is such an interesting topic! And I have a question with no absolute answer. I’d love to hear your thoughts. It seems like we become much more lose about things we were so committed about (not just married/divorce) at some point in history. There’s so many pros and cons depending on the subject. However, when it comes to marriage, do you think that perhaps the appreciation of and leaning towards the idea that it doesn’t have to be forever stems out of fear and lack of responsibility and tolerance towards partners? Just a thought.
I totally agree, I feel like a lot of traditions have dated over time and are no longer as relevant in today's society. In the instance of marriage, I believe that, as a society, we have begun to question the idea of monogamy and also started to prioritise our own happiness - so are less willing to put up with behaviour that we would have a decade ago. I don't know if I would say this comes from a place of "fear" but more so a place of understanding that love doesn't necessarily last forever - and if it does, you are lucky! Am I making sense ahah? Or have I butchered my explanation of that?
Great article
Thanks Zoe!
I loved your article you’re a great writer. I would have liked it to focus less on Hollywood marriages though as we all know most of them are anything but traditional at all anyway and they can’t really relate to the issues facing most. For example I have a friend who recently lost her job and now can’t afford to get the divorce she actually wants. Getting divorced is so expensive it’s actually a privilege to be able to for many people.
Thank you for sharing that, Emily! I actually agree with you on the Hollywood marriages - their lived experience/problems are often vastly different to those of "normal" people for a multitude of different reasons (money, fame, etc). However, I do think that the media commentary around Hollywood marriages is reflective of our broader societal attitude towards marriage and divorce if that makes sense. The point you make about divorce being a privilege is really interesting and in my opinion, very true! I hope that as we move further into the future and as divorce becomes more normalised, it will also become more accessible for people like your friend who are desperate to leave a toxic situation but do not have the monetary means to do so. I appreciate you sharing that with me.
Hii! This is such an interesting topic! And I have a question with no absolute answer. I’d love to hear your thoughts. It seems like we become much more lose about things we were so committed about (not just married/divorce) at some point in history. There’s so many pros and cons depending on the subject. However, when it comes to marriage, do you think that perhaps the appreciation of and leaning towards the idea that it doesn’t have to be forever stems out of fear and lack of responsibility and tolerance towards partners? Just a thought.
I totally agree, I feel like a lot of traditions have dated over time and are no longer as relevant in today's society. In the instance of marriage, I believe that, as a society, we have begun to question the idea of monogamy and also started to prioritise our own happiness - so are less willing to put up with behaviour that we would have a decade ago. I don't know if I would say this comes from a place of "fear" but more so a place of understanding that love doesn't necessarily last forever - and if it does, you are lucky! Am I making sense ahah? Or have I butchered my explanation of that?
Yes, I understand! Thank you Lucia 🤍